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In honor of The Month of Moms, I reached out on Facebook last week to learn some tried and true mom wisdom, and with that, I put the call out for a mom who was long overdue for a day at the spa. Two days later, the spa-napping went down. Watch what happened when winner Jenny Gill got a little taste of her own medicine…

“His mind is in motion and his body is in motion,” New York mom Jenny told me of her 2 year old son, Jack, as we sipped rose at Estancia 460, a restaurant on the cobblestone street next to TriBeCa Spa of Tranquility. “He’s crazy smart and physically advanced. He constantly wants to play a sport, sing the ABC song and tell you about his day. To get him to slow down and understand that you have to sleep, is a big struggle. The just kid doesn’t have time for sleep in his life.”

Although, what Jenny likely didn’t realize in speaking about her son’s misunderstanding of sleep, she was painting a pretty clear picture of her own misunderstanding of relaxation: Jenny has not been to the spa since before Jack was born. Yikes!

Jenny, who happens to be a member of Spa Week’s Hot Mom Spa Squad, clearly knows the importance of recharging your mind and body—so it’s time to give her a taste of her own medicine. How many moms out there dole out wisdom but neglect to follow it themselves? I could say: “To get Jenny to slow down and understand that you have to spa, is a big struggle. The girl jut doesn’t have time for spa in her life.”

Exactly.

When Spa Week reached out to TriBeCa Spa of Tranquility about this great public service for the sake of mom, the acclaimed wellness facility and celebrity hotspot offered up two massages for the cause.

JENNY GILL, You’ve Been Spa-Napped!!!

Our Hot Mom Squad’s Mother’s Day Promise

While we all scramble for those last minute gifts for mom—that beautiful, strong, devoted woman who gave you life—I had a different question on my mind. A question that invokes the inner spirit of who mom is, and who she hopes to become in the next month, year, decade. I’ve reached out to the members of our Hot Mom Spa Squad to find the answer—not what they want from YOU for Mother’s Day (that’s a Spa & Wellness Gift Card by Spa Week, of course!)… But:

What me-time promise for health and vitality will you give YOURSELF as a gift this Mother’s Day?

Roll call! Here’s what our Hot Moms had to say:

To log off social networks and the internet by 7pm each night to help me better unwind and sleep more soundly each night. –Shannon Nelson, agirlsgottaspa.com

I just finished a FAB 21 day detox cleanse and lost 10 pounds and then I bought a package of Power Pilates classes to ensure I get my butt to pilates 3x/week over the next 3 months :-)–Romy Schorr, RomyRaves.com

I’m giving myself permission to prune my professional offers. In other words, I may have taken something on expecting to be able to manage it, but when it feels like it’s just too much, I’m deciding to be okay with saying that I will no longer manage this thing. My emotional wellness comes first! –Akilah S. Richards, www.execumama.com

I’m buying myself a new camera and tablet this Mother’s Day so I can get work done more efficiently and have more time to relax! –Chelsea Day, somedayilllearn.com

My me-time promise for health and vitality that I’m giving myself a gift this Mother’s Day is a full out of pampering session just for me! I’m looking forward to my massage, haircut, mani & pedi and I will be looking good with my family this Mother’s Day! –Debra Rutt, TheHarriedMom.com

I am making an appointment for a facial and I simply can’t wait! This is the ultimate me-time, no kids, relaxation and healthy skin! –Deanna Underwood, mommyGAGA.com

My me-time promise is to remember to take some me-time in the first place. I’m making a promise to myself to get more rest and to make sure I get some time to myself each week so I can be a better me. This may or may not include regular pedicures. I wrote about that promise here. –Jenny Gill, nycjenny.com

The biggest gift I am giving myself is permission to delegate some of my responsibilities. I am currently finishing my first book, rebranding myself/my business, and building a new website and being a control-freak do-it-yourselfer, it is very hard for me to ask for help and also trust that other people can do something to my specifications as well as I can, in the time I need it done by. So I have begun working with a fabulous book editor and have entrusted my new site to a web designer/developer so I can stop feeling guilty for taking an evening off to catch up on my DVR and spend at least one weekend day doing nothing but playing with my kids. –Rachael Pontillo, holisticallyhaute.com

For Mother’s Day this year, I plan on giving myself some much-needed spa time. I have gift cards racked up for spa services! Getting away and actually using them is on my list of “gifts” I’d like to treat myself to this year. –Sondra Drahos, happyhealthyhip.com/blog

I will make time to meditate/pray/read devotions every day, even if I have to lock myself in the bathroom to do it! –Bekah, motherhood-moment.blogspot.com

I promise continue my Weight Watchers and fitness plan to meet my goal. –Nicole Kempka, redlotusmama.com

This Mother’s Day I am taking a great blog trip with 24 of my favorite friends to Destin! We are giving ourselves the gift of friendship, fun, and TIME OFF from our families so we can energize. –Trisha Haas, momdot.com

The “me time” promise I give myself this Mothers Day is the ability to unwind and de-stress at the end of the day. A mom’s to-do list is never-ending, and sometimes you need to tell yourself it is okay to leave the rest until tomorrow. I love relaxing in a nice bubble bator treating myself to a pedicure!
–Jeanine, mommyentourage.net

As moms, we are under a lot of pressure to go-go-go and do-do-do for our families all the time. It’s important, however, to take time to ourselves so we can be the best moms we can be. So, this year I will make time for: hikes to connect with Mother Nature, Pilates classes as a commitment to my physical health, chats with my girlfriends for my mental health, and the occasional ultimate treat—a spa day just for me! –Colleen Lanin, travelmamas.com

I promise to give my body a total makeover with Bikram Yoga this Mother’s Day…since giving birth to my son over three months ago, I have neglected my body but, for the sake of my kids, husband and sanity, I say no more! So vowing to be healthy, will make me one happy mom and wife. Gina Pompono, MommyPosh.com

My gift is to always embrace Skincare Sunday. Skincare Sunday is for that little bit of extra time that most have on this day to use for caring for themselves, including their skin. It makes for the perfect me-time. #SkincareSunday – it’s not just a Twitter movement that’s spread across the world, it can be your reality. –Ava Roxanne, SpaTravelGal.com

I’ve got FOUR teenagers (Triplets + 1, all born within a year) so I’m one really tense mom 365 days per year — though I do love and adore my darlings they are a bit challenging at this stage. For Mother’s Day I will treat myself to a full body massage and margaritas afterward with another
equally haggard mother friend. –Janis Brett Elspas, MommyBlogExpert.com

DAILY Me Time: Healthy eating, yoga, at least 10 minutes of meditation.
WEEKLY Me Time: Mani/ Pedi, a date with myself, window shopping for inspiration.
MONTHLY Me Time: A Facial, Bodywrap and/ or Reflexology.
Big promises, but I make big promises to everyone else in my life. Why not me?
– Ruth Staiman, Fashion Office

ASMR: New-Age YouTube Therapy Delivers Tingles by The Millions

Soft hands gliding across your face, the smell of lavender, the sound of a waterfall gently whispering down a wall… ahhhhh, the pleasurable sensations of the spa are endless! But do any of your sensations ever feel like… The Tingles? Specifically, tingles starting at the top of your head, trickling down your spine, and perhaps rushing through your limbs, leaving you in a happy, meditative trance? Are you familiar with a strange, pleasurable feeling (a headgasm, if you will) that you look forward to during a scalp massage, haircut… or when your therapist gently folds a towel or speaks softly about the treatment you’re about to receive?

Some of you may be looking at me sideways – I don’t understand what you mean by The Tingles! Because you may, in fact, not have them. But if this DOES sound familiar, you aren’t weird. You may not be in the majority, but you also aren’t alone. There’s a tingly sensation making waves right now: It’s called ASMR, Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response. According to Wikipedia’s definition, ASMR is an alleged biological phenomenon characterized as a distinct, pleasurable tingling sensation in the head, scalp or peripheral regions of the body in response to visual, auditory, olfactory, and/or cognitive stimuli. Although it’s up now, at one point ASMR naysayers had the Wikipedia page taken down due to lack of scientific evidence.

Widely unresearched and undocumented, ASMR was only identified as such in February 2010 after small communities began to form online. The ASMR subreddit has nearly 43K subscribers, and many tinglers have created dedicated ASMR Twitter and YouTube accounts, to keep it separate from their “real life.” The triggers of ASMR are vast and personal, from scalp massages and body massages to gentle whispering voices, nail tapping, gentle hair brushing, paper cutting, and delicately, deliberately doing a repetitive activity like folding clothes or playing with legos or lightly touching a glass bowl and a bottle of perfume. I’ve gotten ASMR from physical touch for my entire life and didn’t think I’d be into the videos, but this one put me into a pretty awesome trance the other night.

There are a lot of role play requests, resulting in “Hey sweetheart, you look beautiful today,” followed by a scalp massage, eye exam or ear cleaning. Thanks to the Internet, over the past three years ASMR has been brought into a very niche limelight, giving anyone seeking ASMR a place to get their mesmerising tingle fix. As Nicholas Tufnell, a writer who was the first to confess his ASMR addiction in a Huffington Post article, put it: “If someone walks in on you watching porn,” he says, “it’s easier to explain than if they walk in on you watching ASMR videos.

I first discovered the ASMR craze in my YouTube recommendations, via a woman who performs various scalp and back massages and tickles while narrating what she’s doing. It was around this time I tried searching for a spa that offers ASMR massage so that I could check it out myself. I soon learned this did not exist.

If you don’t have ASMR, you may enjoy the tickling, but an eight minute video of a woman tapping her nails may very well be the most boring thing you’ll ever see on the Internet. 71,000 views, is this a mistake!?

You’ll sit in utter confusion as you watch a young lady named Violet pretend to give a haircut and shave for 43 minutes, wondering who these half a million viewers are who had 43 minutes to spare.

And with over 2.3 million views and 12,000 likes on this 16-minute video above, you may be very surprised to learn that Maria “GentleWhispering” does not at any point take off any of her clothes.

Maria, a blonde woman who speaks softly in an Eastern European accent, is the reigning Queen of ASMR—according to video views and everyone I’ve spoken to about it. We Skyped the other day, and I learned a ton.

Maria, the Queen of ASMR

“I am an ASMRtist,” Maria told me in her famous tingle-inducing voice. “That is what we’re called – people who make ASMR videos for others to enjoy. It’s about being creative. We’re ASMRtists.” Maria started making videos in 2009, a time when she estimates there were maybe 1000 people around the world tuned into it. She guesses that now, after a slight media boost last Spring, there are about 100,000 people in the community worldwide, 85,000 of whom subscribe to her channel.  “A lot of people think it’s weird,” she told me. This is apparent in many forums: people are quick to poke fun, to the point where many ASMRtists do not allow comments. Through it all, the ASMR community sticks together, proud to be amongst the blessed ones who experience such therapeutic sensations.

Amal Dabit, ASMRtist

I spoke to another popular YouTube ASMRtist, Amal Dabit, who at first couldn’t believe the response to her soft-spoken ramblings online. She explained that she likes to use humor in her videos (the most recent one being a 36 minute nail polish change), because “People deal with a lot of stress and anxiety in their lives, and they watch my videos to escape. Humor is another way to help people do that.”

The other night, I interviewed a young woman named Jenny Jaffe, a comedy writer for MTV: “I fall asleep to ASMR videos every night,” she said. She was concerned her tingles were getting less intense because she watches so much. “I get a ton of ASMR when I go to spas. I go to spas for that reason. Even when I didn’t know what I was feeling, it was a place I knew I would get that feeling.” And it goes beyond the touch. “Different spa sounds are really nice. It’s all deliberate sounds in a quiet environment – which is a huge trigger.” Research or not: ASMR is therapy for people.

Hmmmmm. Therapy. That is what we do here at Spa Week: We seek out new ways to provide therapeutic experiences to the masses. Is an ASMR massage experience something spas should consider incorporating into their menus? Does the lack of scientific research and explanation outweigh the very real ways ASMR has been proven to soothe people’s bodies and minds, bringing them a sense of peace and happiness?

ASMR community and spas alike – I would love to hear your thoughts on all this. Please share in the comments below!

The Mom Needs a Moment Spa Guide

Mom, you need a bath. Not because you’re dirty (you actually smell quite lovely!), but because you need a half hour of time to turn off that tailspun mind of yours. You need a fancy scented candle that you won’t feel guilty burning, you need yoga, you need sleep, and yes, I know, you need more Twitter followers.

Do you ever feel the need to tell your mom what she needs? Don’t think physical objects, think about mind-body wellbeing. Moms have a spectacular way of being in touch with everyone else’s needs, yet this leaves them too often detached from the importance of their own. How do you tell her what she needs? You don’t. You spa her.

Be the caretaker for a change, and send your mom for a spa experience geared towards optimal health and wellness, and make it something that will make her smile. What kind of mom is your mom? Get her a Spa & Wellness Gift Card by Spa Week, and set her up with the perfect spa treatment match.

1. THE STRICTLY BUSINESSMOM

Your mom’s got meetings, phone calls, conferences, hands to shake, and a deadline at 9AM the morning after Mother’s Day. Seriously!? You watch stress take her down at night, you watch her head off every morning to a job doesn’t satisfy her creative pursuits, and you watch her type away frantically on her dreadful Blackberry. She needs an escape from the rigidity of her daily life—both mentally and physically. She’s got business in the front… she needs a party in the back.

SPA DIAGNOSIS: This woman holds a lot of tension in her back, neck and shoulders. Your Businessmom could use a massage, but I’ll tell you what she needs even more: a twist. Surprise her with a Cupping Treatment. This ancient Chinese therapy will have both instant and long-lasting benefits relieving back tension. Using suction cups that create a vacuum, this treatment gets stuck blood circulating again like no other. It creates temporary red marks, but they will never be visible under that boxy business suit! Her cool cupping experience will also make for good water cooler talk.

BONUS: Get her crayons and paper and draw together. Life doesn’t have to be so serious.

2. THE MILF

Just face it: your mom is a hottie. She looks better in those jeans than you do, and you know what? Despite your resentment, deep down you are proud of her. You aspire to be like her one day… as if you’re not developing her neurosis already. Like a good offspring, it is your job to support her ageless face in its progression into absolute timelessness. Take Gwen here, for example. You KNOW that Kingston totally got her the airbrushing for this photo for Mother’s Day.

SPA DIAGNOSIS: Show your MILF you love her and respect her genetic superiority with an anti-aging facial. Diamond microdermabrasion facials go a long way to keeping skin smooth, taut and young. It’s a non-invasive treatment that’s great for getting rid of lines in the face that look like wrinkles, but often are just an effect of dry skin. In a few years from now, you can take her for a mani-pedi and have the discussion: Mom, would you like me to get you Botox?

BONUS: Get her a compact mirror. Write a short “I love you” message inside – in Sharpie.

3. THE DR. OZMOM

Your mom started making bi-weekly salmon dinners as soon as Dr. Oz had a salmon episode. She just this week started purchasing vast amounts of vegetable powder.  She stopped using the microwave for some time after reading an article about it on the internet, but then started again because Dr. Oz said it was fine. She only goes by her RealAge.

SPA DIAGNOSIS: Acupuncture! Because Dr. Oz is really into it.

BONUS: A day on the calendar and the ingredients to make Dr. Oz’s Lemon Facial Cleanser… and a whole skincare lab worth of his many famous at-home spa recipes. FUN!

4. THE FIFTIES HOUSEWIFE

Julia Childs in the kitchen, Mary Poppins of the soccer carpool; your mom is a stay-at-home champion! Her life’s work is the series of perfect human beings she has created, and she takes joy in all things diapers, homework and pediatrician checkups. However, she forgets that her “stay at home” title doesn’t mean she can’t ever get out.

SPA DIAGNOSIS: Send your dedicated mom to a place where she has no choice but to channel that dedication to her own self. Send her for a day at the banya. Let her soak up the childless therapy of the jacuzzi, the eucalyptus steam room, the cold plunge and the various saunas. Help her get back the simple joy of being one with herself.

BONUS: A YouTube video parody song declaring your love for her.

5. THE VEGAN YOGIMOM

She meditates in the mornings and hits the yoga mat shortly after. You are served fresh made kale chips when friends are over. She shops only at Whole Foods. She’s centered and healthy and calm and she teaches you little life lessons over the sound of her juicer.

SPA DIAGNOSIS: Your mom is undoubtedly in an eastern hemisphere headspace, so why not help her plunge in deeper? She would love Ayurveda. Ayurveda is the traditional Hindu system of medicine which uses diet, herbal treatment, and yogic breathing. She would especially love Shirodhara, the soothing and spiritual pouring of warm oil over the third eye chakra.

BONUS: A Gluten-Free Macaroni Necklace.

Delicious Vegan Chocolate Recipe

Happy Spa Week, my Spa Sweethearts!

I hope you are enjoying your sweet, sweet week, full of sugar scrubs and chocolate facials, no doubt! In honor of this healthy, irresistible week of spa, I wanted to share with you an equally healthy and irresistible recipe I learned from Dashama. Remember in this video she promised to show us? Dashama has an easy-breezy cooking style: all her recipes are healthy, organic, full of superfoods, and take no longer than 20 minutes. Score! Also, forget exact amounts and precise ingredients; Dashama encourages you follow your taste buds and intuition! However, you’ve got to start somewhere. Use this framework to yield some absolutely delicious vegan, organic dark chocolate in mere minutes. (And don’t forget to enter to win 7 nights in Bali with her this summer, she’ll be sure to personally show you many healthy tricks up her sleeve!)

DASHAMA’S HOMEMADE VEGAN ORGANIC DARK CHOCOLATE in 20 MINUTES

homemade dark chocolate recipe

Ingredients:

  • Raw organic coconut oil - 1 cup
  • Raw cacao powder - 1/4 cup
  • Chocolate vegan protein powder (optional) - 1/4 cup
  • Stevia liquid (or to taste) - 1 tsp
  • A pinch of pink sea salt
  • Optional: almonds, pumpkin seeds, chia seeds, flax seeds, coconut flakes or other goodies to add texture, taste and nutrients. 

Instructions:

Mix all ingredients together in a bowl.

Freeze for 10-20 minutes. You can make it in any container: a flat square plate for a chocolate bar effect, a bowl for a rounded aesthetic like you see here, or use a rubber ice cube tray to make various fun shapes.

After it hardens in the freezer, pop your chocolate treat out easily. Clean, smooth, no problemo.

And the best part: Enjoy! And don’t forget to save some for your friends… they will be very impressed.

Dashama and her homemade superhero vegan chocolate!

Care for your chocolate in the form of spa? While you’re noshing on your delicious bits of healthy dark homemade goodness, this Spa Week, a whole box of chocolate covered $50 treatments await. You can still book these and quench your craving, but hurry before the moment passes!

Canyon Falls Spa & Salon, Scottsdale, Arizona: 50 Min Custom Blend Facial with Custom Chocolate Mask

Evian Salon & Day Spa, La Jolla, California, 60 Min Plaisir D’Aromes Yonka Facial and Chocolate Mask

WELL Spa at the Platinum Hotel, Las Vegas, Nevada: 50 Min Chocolate Ice Cream Pedicure and Manicure

Solace Day Spa & Salon, Old Bridge, New Jersey: 90 Min Chocolate Covered Strawberry Manicure and Pedicure

Terrace Retreat Salon & Day Spa, Southlake, Texas: 50 Min Chocolate Body Scrub