Hot Mom Monday: 3 Tips for Pampering Yourself on the Inside

By Bekah J

Going to a spa can do wonderful things for our bodies and help make us look and feel good. But what if you can’t make it to the spa? Why not try somewhat of an “internal spa treatment”? A pampering of our souls to help us feel good when we can’t receive a physical spa treatment. Here are some easy things you can do to make yourself feel good on the inside so you’re better able to tackle the outside world.

Meditate

It may sound a little cheesy, but research is continuously touting the benefits of meditation. The nice thing is there’s really no wrong way to do it. You can spend time praying, you can find all sorts of resources for guided meditation, or you can just take time to breathe deeply and focus on nothing but the sounds and sensations around you. The only thing you need to do to reap the benefits is to give yourself some uninterrupted time – even five minutes will help – is to step away from the immediate cares of the world.

Keep it in Perspective

There are two mantras that help me get through just about everything: “lower the bar” and “it’s only a phase.” Although these are particularly appropriate for parents, they work for anything. Most of us keep standards for ourselves far higher than anyone else has for us. By lowering the bar we can make our goals more manageable, and then raise the bar back up once we’ve reached them. Reminding ourselves that “it’s only a phase” can help us weather just about any storm or stressful experience, because we remember that it’s not going to last forever.

Affirm Yourself

Did you know that we have tens of thousands of separate thoughts per day? For most people, the majority of those thoughts are negative (regrets, thinking about mistakes, picking out our own faults). Consciously change that pattern. If you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, turn it into a proactive one. And spend time each day intentionally focusing on your strengths and the things you can do. It can be particularly helpful to write down positive comments that other people say about you, so that you can re-read them and remind yourself of your good traits.

When you feel good on the inside, you’ll be able to go through life more confidently. It also helps your stress level, which will have a positive effect on your health and relationships with others as well.

Bekah blogs at Motherhood Moment where she shares family-friendly tips on saving money and time, meal and activity ideas, and more. She also blogs at Motherhood Mindfully where she talks about mindful parenting and eco-friendly living.

Hot Mom Monday: 6 Must-Haves for New Moms (and Veteran Moms, too!)

This week’s Hot Mom Monday comes from one of the most luxurious mamas on the block. You may recognize The Luxury Spot‘s leading lady (and super Hot Mom Spa Squad-er), Bryce Gruber, from some past guest posts on Spa Week Daily… but most likely her name rings a bell when associated with Vajazzling. Bryce’s daring spa video helped us put Vajazzling on the lips and hips of everyone in the social media-sphere! Now Bryce is back to share with us some more exciting news with us… she’s expecting! This second-time mama-to-be is spilling her veteran mom must-haves to help new moms prep for mommy-hood, luxuriously.

By Bryce Gruber

As I approach week 21 of pregnancy with my 2nd little nugget, I’m growing more conscious of all the things I didn’t know the first time around… in fact, there was so much. Like the stroller I picked about 4 years ago when I was equally as pregnant with my son- yeesh, I thought it was a zippy little thing but all it did was cause me backaches and ignore the issue of baby’s speech development. This time around I’m a wee bit wiser in all my choices, and have put together the must-haves for every new, expecting momma (and even those who are no stranger to this game).

1. Dressed to impress with no $tress

Good Maternity Dresses Can Be Had Affordably (um, why didn’t someone tell me that a few years ago?!): I each and every one of the 55 pounds I gained with my son (eat your heart out, Jessica Simpson) and each and every new maternity shirt I had to buy (basically every week to keep up). Frankly, it was exhausting to keep shopping (the pleasure of shopping is sort of wiped out when your feet swell like balloons), and I wasn’t feeling great about growing by a few pounds per week from the 2nd trimester. I spent oodles of cash on clothes I didn’t love, and they’re now out of style 4 years later. I was recently introduced to MineForNine.com, where designer maternity duds are rented by the month (and then prorated by the week). Um, genius. Since most women can’t really wear their maternity wardrobe for more than 2-3 months before moving onto the next size, it’s perfect. And imagine all those occasions… your friend’s rehearsal dinner, your cousin’s birthday extravaganza, the wedding of your boss to your secretary- why spend a few hundred on a dress you’ll wear 1-2 times at the most when you can rent the same one January Jones wore for like $30 or less? Oh, and if you order the wrong size by mistake they’ll exchange it for free. (If you could see my heart right now you’d see it pumping out pure love for this) (In extra awesome news, MineforNine.com is offering 10% off any purchase or rental with code Summer2012 (now through August 31, 2012)

2. Tame your glow

BIOCOLLASIS™ COMPLEX CELL VITALITY RADIANCE TONER

Your skin will probably produce a ton of oil, so take care of it with something safe. I love Elizabeth Grant’s Radiance Toner because the gentle formula is pregnancy-safe (adios, parabens!), sops up extra dirt and oil that your cleanser might miss, and keeps nasty pore gunk in check. All I can say is my once-awesome skin has become a constant project with all these wild hormones in me. Seriously, they’re wilder than puberty.

3. Suck it up, girl

I mean, not yet… Don’t wear shapewear when you’re pregnant, that just seems cruel to the baby inside, but it’s a known fact that doctors recommend shapewear for the weeks following delivery to sort of suck it all back in. Aside from just feeling more “normal” after delivering, the gentle compression actually helps re-tone your uterus and get it back to where it needs to be. No one tells girls that they tend to still look 6 months pregnant for the week or two after delivery and without some shapewear confidence and spirits about body image could head south fast. I love these from Body Wrap because they’re perfect under almost anything, suck in the entire torso, and are an affordable piece to add to your lingerie wardrobe (and trust me, you’ll be inclined to use them for longer than just a few weeks when you see how good they make your tush look, too).

4. The Ferrari of strollers

Like I said earlier, I made the mistake of getting a then-trendy stroller for my son when he was born. And then I got backaches from pushing a stroller designed for a much shorter person (I’m 5’8″), and then when I got a stroller for a tall gal, my babysitter complained that the handles were uncomfortable for her because she was a cute 5’2″. What was even more ridiculous is that the stroller faced the outside world, so my growing baby boy didn’t get much eye contact of verbal stimulation from me… sigh. This time around I’m committing to the Stokke Xplory for a solid few years. It’s built to last for a solid three years and adjusts to all of baby’s growth stages. The handlebars are adjustable for someone as short as a 4 or 5 year old (my son likes pushing it), all the way up to a 6’5″ man (a close friend of mine said he’s getting one too because it’s the only stroller he’s found that doesn’t make him a hunchback dad). The seat faces the front, your face, or even tilts up so the baby can check out the sky. I love it, and in the words of my husband (in his thick accent), “is it just me, or does zees stroll-arrr handle better than our auto?” Yes, Yossef, it does…

5. Just in case you just need a gift…

If you’re reading this as a considering-motherhood kinda gal (if you value your sleep and muscle tone, perhaps you should turn away now), you probably already have some pregnant or new mom friends and family members. One of the best gifts in the world for expecting and newbie moms is a Citrus Lane gift box. They’re packed with all sorts of mommy-must-haves that new moms don’t even know they need. Sometimes boxes include items like Gripe Water (a stomach remedy for little babies that only veteran moms know about), or non-toxic, chemical-free face washes meant to clear hormone-hacked skin. Somehow they pack a ton of expensive goodies into a really affordable box, and I’m thinking that’s up there with the miracle of birth (not quite as up there, but definitely on the same list).

6. The lazy mom’s solution to hydration


Everyone in the world has probably heart of Mustela by now, but their lotions and potions aren’t just great for babies… if you’re looking to have just one cream on your vanity that’s good for kicking stretch-mark ass, keeping baby smooth, and leaving you with a really light, babyish scent, I recommend Mustela’s 9 Months Ultimate Hydration. Delish, seriously.

Bryce Gruber is a Manhattanite mom and founder + editor of TheLuxurySpot.com who can be found jet-setting off to every corner of the globe. She loves exotic places, planes with WiFi, summer clothes, & Sucre brown butter truffles. Bryce’s aim is to do to luxury what Elton John did to being gay. Follow her on twitter @brycegruber

 

Hot Mom Monday: 7 Tips for Taking Care of Mom

By Stacy DeBroff

Between driving kids to lacrosse practice and basketball tournaments, making dinner, searching for summer camps, taking care of the dog, checking off work or volunteer commitments, and tossing in endless loads of laundry, we Moms pack a lot of activities into any given day. Unfortunately, in the crunch to get it all accomplished, we begin to make sacrifices and adjustments to our own priorities – setting the alarm a little earlier to get a jump on the day or assuming that we’ll get our exercise by running the laundry basket up and down the basement steps.

Yet, in order for us to take care of our families, we have to take care of ourselves. I’ve included some of my favorite tips below:

1. Prioritize

Make “you” a priority. Schedule a time each week that you commit to doing something solely for you – from a yoga class to a manicure to browsing the public library – while someone else cares for your child. Look upon this time as integral to your health and well-being, and not expendable.

2. Exercise

Schedule time for exercise every week, because it never happens if left up to chance. Working out gives you more energy, helps you lose weight, improves your circulation and your mood, tones your muscles, and makes you healthier.

3. Sleep

Get enough sleep each night to sustain your lifestyle as an active and involved Mom. Tag team with your partner for some extra sleep on weekend mornings by alternating who gets up with your child

4. Eat Well

Eat nutritiously, as you’ll function much better if you’re running on a balanced diet rather than your child’s leftover macaroni and cheese or chicken fingers.

5. Escape

Create a place of retreat in your house or garden that soothes and restores you. This can be as simple as a big, comfortable chair with good lighting and a soft throw so you can curl up and read.

6. Get Support

Time for friends is refreshing as well as necessary to maintaining your sanity. Find friends who can provide support, advice, and empathy when you need it, and with whom you enjoy responding in kind.

7. Pamper Yourself

Think of quick and easy ways to pamper yourself, such as: Take a bubble bath with scented oil and candles, go for a walk outdoors or do something athletic, get a new haircut, attend an intriguing talk or presentation, treat yourself to a facial, massage, a luxurious face cream, a fancy soap, yoga class, or a cleaning service or get an over-sized, soft terrycloth robe and comfy slippers to put on at the end of a stressful day.

Stacy DeBroff, founder and CEO of Mom Central Consulting, the leading social media consulting firm focused on Moms, brings more than a decade of award-winning experience, expertise, and insight to the nation’s top brands, agencies, and organizations. In 2011, Inc. magazine named Mom Central Consulting (www.momcentralconsulting.com) to its Inc. 500|5000 list of the nation’s fastest-growing private companies. Read more about Stacy at www.stacydebroff.com.

 


Hot Mom Monday: Prepping for Motherhood with Yoga

What do you do when your training for a distance running race and you’ve just completed three years of a PhD bilogy program when a car barrels through an intersection and interrupts your 5-year plan? You pick your life up a head out on a new journey! Kia is a green lifestyle yogini and founder of www.bodhibear.net. She believes in personal responsibility and maximizing your joy. This Hot Mom Sqaud-er is not new to green or healthy living.  She works directly with online communities as well as real-life friends to help create and promote simple ways to improve or appreciate life with wellness and mindful living. Below, Kia talks about yoga as the cornerstone for helping her become a successful, conscious and present pre and post natal mother and woman.

Kia of bodhibear.net

By Kia Ruiz

Embarking on the journey of motherhood is a delicate time, but a fantastic one to embrace yoga. A lot of change and surrender goes on during the gestational period inside a prenatal body. Breathing, or pranayama, is one of the best ways to cultivate the path to a balanced, truthful, yogic heart. Breathing and self-awareness through yoga allows women to mindfully make the transition into motherhood.

The mind-breath connection is a way to ease our frantic minds when they are scrambling, preparing to become first time mothers. Breath is the essential union between the philosophical and empirical sides of yoga. Unfortunately, breath and the art of breathing are not always obvious or continually stressed during non-prenatal yoga practices/classes. However, as a result of strong yogic background, the pregnant woman is already capable of slowing down to listen to her body’s demands through biological necessity. Yoga helps women turn into mother’s by accepting and following the mantra “I nourish myself to nourish others.” See below for a three-step breathing ritual that will help pre-natal women get in touch with their inner yogi.

Mothers give a lot of themselves. It is the strong women tapped into her balanced yogic nature that is the most effective at giving and providing for her children from a consistent, truthful heart.

3-Step Yogic Breath Pre-Natal Practice

Sit in an easy, cross-legged pose and dive into your breath. See if it is shallow in your chest or expansive in the body. Rest palms on belly with finger tips touching near belly-button. On the inhale breathe into belly letting fingers pull apart as belly becomes round like a beach ball then finger tips return to touch on exhale. When ready, raise hands to lower ribs and feel them lift and rise out on inhales and return on exhales. Then place finger tips reaching up to touch collarbone. Feel them lift gently as you inhale.

Then add all these movements together with hands resting on knees. Imagine a container like a glass being filled a little (belly breath) then stacked with more filling (lung/rib breath) and finally to the top (collarbone/upper thoracic breath). All of that is ONE inhale. Slowly empty the container as you exhale and release the collarbone, ribs, and then belly. Once you have this rhythm then try to balance the length of inhales and exhales – then lengthen the balanced breath.

This is an easy breath that we find ourselves in after savasana (corpse pose) but it is something we can always work towards in our more active poses. It is also a breath to find when we want that extra touch of mindfulness in our day.

Hot Mom Monday: Mother’s Day Weekend in Vegas

What do you do when you win a trip to Las Vegas from Spa Week and have to figure out how to leave your baby behind for the very first time? We can only hope this is a dilemma you will have to deal with! For Hot Mom Spa Squad member Stacy-Ann Gooden (AKA Weather Anchor Mama) it was a hard decision, but here she takes us through the journey, from her big surprise win to planning the away-from-baby-cation, and enjoying herself on the strip. When she’s not in Vegas (which is any other time of her life) she plays the role of delivering the weather in New York City. But, her most important role, she says, is being a wife and mom.

By Stacy-Ann Gooden

Who would have thought that I’d be selected – out of gosh knows how many people – to win Spa Week’s Escape to Vdara Giveaway!? All I did was put my name in a jar at the Spa Week Media Party last October. Being the skeptic that I am I asked the lady manning the booth:

“Is this for real?  Does anyone ever win?”
“Yes. You never know. It doesn’t hurt to try,” she responded.

What the heck? She was right. I might as well give it a shot. Besides, it didn’t cost me a dime to throw my name in the hat among hundreds, if not thousands of people that night. Fast forward two weeks later and I get a call from some lady named Melissa claiming that I won a trip to Vegas. I chalked it up to one of the many bogus calls I usually get about winning a cruise some where. I almost hung up the phone. But, then she said something that triggered a memory from that night.

“Yeah right. How much does it cost?” I asked.
“Nothing! You won! I remember you. I was the one who took all your info at Spa Week,” she said.

It took a little bit more convincing, but I eventually realized that this thing was legit. My skepticism grew into pure excitement. I couldn’t wait to tell my hubby. I knew that he wouldn’t be excited  about the idea of going to a spa. The only time he’s ever had a massage was on our honeymoon. He said that would be the last one he’d ever get. But, this is Vegas, baby! Spa or no spa, he was totally down for this vacation.

The major hurdle was deciding whether or not to bring my daughter, Princess, along. But this is Vegas after all, so we ultimately chose to make this a baby-free vacation. I can’t say it was easy to leave her behind!

To prepare, here’s the plan I put into motion, starting 4 months in advance. (Read how each step turned out HERE):

  1. Get Princess used to the idea of sleeping on her own. Slowly start working my way back into my own bed.
  2. Help Princess get comfortable spending time away from my husband and me. Have her spend more time at Grandma’s house on the weekends.
  3. Princess has never spent the night anywhere beside our home, so she’ll need a few practice runs. I’ll have her spend the night at Grandma’s, too.
  4. While we’re gone, we’ll have all of her favorite snacks, toys, and other essentials handy. It’s not exactly the same as our home, but it’ll be close enough.
  5. She’s been doing OK with regular milk.  Even though it won’t be the same as lying next to mommy, I’ll pump a few bottles in case of an emergency.
  6. Face time! Since we won’t be there in the flesh, at least we cant see and chat with each other over the phone!

I had up to a year to fulfill the prize which included a three night stay in a penthouse suite, a spa and salon credit, a dining voucher, and limousine transportation to and from the hotel. We booked our Vdara retreat for Mother’s Day weekend, which (ironically) worked out perfectly.

I’ve never been to Vegas before. But when I think of Sin City, a scene from The Hangover comes to mind. Thoughts of a bunch of guys at a bachelor party getting wasted, followed by a bunch of other crazy events. Basically, I was totally clueless and didn’t know what to expect.  As it turns out, Vegas is a beautiful city with so much more to offer than just casinos and booze. Check out the scenery from our penthouse suite.

If you think the view outside is cool, check out the view inside.

Staying in a penthouse suite was also a first for us. This alone would have been enough but, there was so much more to enjoy. The first thing on the agenda after checking in was to grab a bite to eat, and hit up the casinos. Being novice gamblers, we played it smart and went over to the slot machines. I did pretty well in the beginning, but I should have walked away when I was up. I ended up losing my money.

I had my spa appointment the next morning and we were famished from a long day of traveling. So, we made it an early night.

Our stay up to this point was absolutely amazing, but visiting Vdara Spa and Salon completely took my breath away. I was scheduled to have a massage, facial and brow wax.  I also got a chance to enjoy the other great amenities the spa had to offer. I rotated between the stream room, sauna, Jacuzzi, and relaxation room the entire day. In fact, I loved it so much that I returned the following day for another round.  I even talked my hubby into coming along. They don’t normally allow picture taking.  But, my tour guide said that it was okay to snap these pics.

From gambling to pampering, the fun didn’t stop there. We got a chance to see “O” Cirque du Soleil, and a variety show. We weren’t allowed to take pics during the show.  My hubby snapped this one after leaving one of the performances.

We also spent some time touring the neighboring hotels and the fabulous Vegas strip.

When it came to satisfying our palates, there were tons of different restaurants to choose from. Being the foodie that I am, I wanted to try different cuisines. The Japanese restaurant, Blossom, was definitely one of our favorites.

Our first trip to Vegas was a blast! We were able to fit a lot of activities in during our three night stay. We’d definitely love to return, and explore more of what Sin City has to offer.

Thank goodness I put my name in that jar at Spa Week, and I thank my lucky stars for not hanging up the phone.

Big up to Vdara Spa and Salon for sponsoring our hotel stay.  A special shout out goes out to Spa Week for hosting the giveaway.